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How to Party Like a Legend – Without Drinking

Everyone loves a party, but nobody likes a hangover, am I right? Still for most people, that punishment is no reason to abstain from drinking the night before, and I totally understand why.  Some nights are simply so legendary that you can say without a trace of doubt that they’re worth the 5 day “epic hangover of doom” that follows them 😉 When I wrote about everything I learned from not drinking for a year, Read more…

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Free-Flowing Relationships

8 out of 10 times when someone asks me if I have a girlfriend, my answer pisses them off.   I'm not really sure why.  I guess I've just been blessed to meet a lot of people who really care a lot about my love life 😉 That's why I was always unsure about writing this post, even though I feel like there's some real value in it.  Luckily, a couple of nights ago someone told Read more…

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How to Fix Your Problems the Fast Way

You know how you can sometimes stumble upon a very old online conversation you had with your best friend (or perhaps read a page in your teenage diary) and can’t help but laugh about the pettiness of your problems and how serious they seemed back then? As you got older, you gained perspective and realized that in the end you’re still alive and there’s worse things to worry about.  At the time though it literally Read more…

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Supply and Demand for Everything You Hate About the World

As I was clearing out my Facebook feed last week I noticed there is definitely no shortage of people who are unhappy with the way things are going in the world. Punks, snobs, right-wing, left-wing, educated, ignorant... People from all walks of life are starting to wake up and realize the way we are behaving as a species in general is simply insane, and in no way sustainable, honest or respectable.  In a lot of ways Read more…

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How to Reach Your Goals and Live In the Moment at the Same Time

If you had to identify your whole approach to life with one specific character, which one would you choose: The laid back hippie or the Spartan warrior? The Roman hedonist or the Zen monk? The overachieving go-getter or the guy who’s already content with his basic needs covered? The girl who plans every day to the minute or the unpredictable adventurer? (Yeah yeah Pepijn, we get it...  Go on!) Since most people aren’t completely black Read more…

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Fall In Love with Sucking

Ever looked at a guy who's great with women and wondered “Why can’t that be me?” Ever took a bite of your best friend’s homemade cookies and thought “I want to do that too, but mine always end up tasting like a waste of time” ? Ever told your friend who plays guitar: “I tried to do that a couple of times , but I give up every single time because it’s just too hard in the beginning" ? Read more…

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The Ultimate Guide to Creating Your Own “Youtopia”: An Inside-Out Approach to Lifestyle Design

One of the most important things anyone should do with their life is design it exactly in a way that will make them as happy as possible all the time.  This should be common sense, yet most people just don’t do it.  They live from weekend to weekend and from vacation to vacation, always looking out for that next escape instead of simply living a life they don’t need to escape from. Now call me Read more…

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Is This Dying Man More Alive Than You?

I'd like to introduce you to a buddy of mine.  We'll simply call him [Buddy] for the sake of his privacy. [Buddy] and I don't see each other very often anymore but it has come to my attention that in recent years he's drastically turned his life around: He's been traveling the world, he's wearing more colorful or attention grabbing clothes and he's become very vocal about opinions that people will definitely criticize him for.  I don't agree with Read more…

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3 Reasons Why You Are Not Making Your Dreams Come True

Sometimes you find yourself with a goal you really want to achieve, but you just don’t seem to be taking enough action to reach it. Maybe you have no time, the stars are not aligned perfectly or "your mom won't let you", or maybe you're just too tired, too hungry, too horny to do shit right now... Maybe you ARE taking action, but all of the actions you take are just procrastination in disguise: *Making Read more…

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Why “Just Be Yourself” Is Actually Amazing Advice But Almost Everyone Gets It Wrong

"Just be yourself and all will be fine!" has got to be one of the most cliché pieces of advice that ever gets thrown around. Like most people, you probably received it from a good friend someday. Most likely it had something to do with dating, or maybe in your case it was about a job interview, speaking in front of a crowd or your first porn audition (I'm not judging you, Wotan 😉 ). Again Read more…

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Are You “Free from” or “Free to”?

Last night a subtle difference between 2 small words somehow had a tremendous impact on me. For a while now one of my biggest goals had been to achieve a state of complete personal freedom one day.  And to help as many others as possible do the same in the process. I had a list of things most of us need to be "free from" if we want to be able to do anything we Read more…

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What You Can Learn from Your 3 Year Old Self

Can you still remember what you were like as a little kid? In my case I was always excited to discover, learn and experience new things.  I think to most grown-ups I must've been the most annoying little fucker ever to have over at their house.  As soon as I crawled through the door I'd go on an exploration-binge, open all their closets and check out everything that was in there to find out what Read more…

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11 Surprising Things I Learned from Not Drinking for a Year

That's right! You might not have expected this post since I play in a band called Wasted 24/7  and pretty much embodied that term for a big part of his life.  But aside from the occasional accident (damn you woman, feeding me gin tonic when I asked for water), I haven't touched a drink in 13 months. That sounded much more serious than it is though 😉 When I decided to quit drinking for a while Read more…

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Are Your Relationships Based on Reality or Fiction?

While you often don't realize it, the way you relate to the people in your life is constantly changing. • One week you're best friends, the next she stabs you in the back and you hate her (or you're dead, depending on how literally she stabbed you). • One day you're strangers and not the least bit interested in each other, the next you have a conversation that makes you bond so much you can't Read more…

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Don’t Confuse Taking a Risk with Taking a Chance

You know those moments when you really want to do something deep down, but something always keeps you from doing it the very last second? • Maybe you need to quit your job and get a better one • Maybe you need to tell someone you care about something that might hurt them or piss them off • Maybe you just want to "cuddle" someone's brains out really hard Whatever it is, most of the Read more…

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To Anyone Who Thinks We Shouldn’t Help the Refugees

Here's a little story from my own life, promise it's short: One day when I was homeless I struck up a conversation with this elderly man pushing a shopping cart with all his belongings. Upon learning I was living on the streets he immediately dug up 4-5 "power-pancakes". They were thick, filled with carbs and protein and one of them would be enough for me to last on for a half a day. "Here, take Read more…

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3 Ways You Didn’t Know Society Controls Your Sexuality

Today I woke up early, ready to get out and do stuff, but then I started thinking about sex and before I knew it 2 hours had passed and I was still in bed… Don’t worry, it’s not what you think. But it lured you in to read this, didn’t it? There have been a lot of instances lately where people asked me about subjects like feminism, slut shaming , gay rights, rape culture, etc. Read more…

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Some Advice About Playing with Balls

  I had an important realization this week that holds some value for most of us. Do you ever tell yourself "I made my move, now the ball is in their court!" ? I used to do it all the time. I'd tell myself things like: • "I asked her out, she had no time. Now it's up to her to take initiative." • "I told him I was willing to squash our beef, he Read more…

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How to Stay Motivated

Someone asked me how I stay motivated every day. The truth is I don't: Motivation is like a one night stand. You share a passionate moment with her and you feel there's a real connection there but you know that when you wake up she might already be gone. It can feel amazing and it's totally worth it, but you can't depend on it at all. Discipline, however, is the one that makes you so Read more…

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10 Steps to Making the New Year Your Bitch

Here’s a small motivational story for anyone who needs it or is willing to read: 2015 was without a doubt the best year in my life so far. If yours wasn’t, you might say to yourself “Well, good for him. Hopefully I’ll get luckier this time.” But did I really get lucky?  Did an amazing year finally “happen to me”? Fuck no, tons of bad shit happened this year.  To name just three: • My Read more…

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No Small Talk Experiment

I just decided to do this simple experiment next week and I'm inviting you to join me: While I made my last post mainly because I hate wasting time, it got me thinking. Too often, we all resort to small talk and safe topics because we are afraid to open up. We simply use it as a protective layer of meaningless fluff to avoid making ourselves vulnerable. It's easy to deceive yourself into believing you Read more…

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