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This Perfect Moment

As I’m writing this, I’m looking at an envelope on my desk. It’s an important letter to customs clearance. It’s written, sealed and stamped. But still, it’s been lying there for the past 3 days. Why? In an effort to run my errands more efficiently, I like to batch process Read more…

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Receiving Compliments Completely

A long time ago, one of my best friends told me “You should write a blog post about receiving compliments.” So I said “Great idea! I’ll do that!”. And then I never did it 😉 Just like me at the time, you’re probably wondering what I could even write about Read more…

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Your Motives Determine Your Struggle

An obvious answer seems to be: Do it for a while, and observe how it makes you feel. From a rational perspective, this makes perfect sense. But in reality, it’s not that simple. Because the emotions we feel when we’re doing something do not just spring from the act itself, Read more…

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Are You Growing or Dying?

Imagine you wanted to build bigger biceps. How would you get them to grow? You’d do it by using the following 2 steps: 1. You’d put your biceps in a situation that challenges them. One where they had to work a little harder than they’re used to. Like lifting a Read more…

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How to Forgive People Who Hurt You

What do you think about, when you read the title of this post? Maybe you clicked it because you're tired of not being able to forgive someone who has wronged you.  And now you're looking forward finding out how to fix that. Or if that didn't really sound like you, Read more…

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You Are Not What You Believe

For almost 2 years now, I’ve considered myself a vegan. But lately, I’ve decided to stop doing that. Don’t get me wrong. I will not change my diet. I will still not eat anything a vegan wouldn’t eat. And I won’t use my money to support companies whose behavior towards Read more…

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How to Predict Your Future

It’s pretty much conventional knowledge that predicting the future is impossible. Even if a completely legit, scientifically verified psychic could have a look into your future for you, that very ability would turn them into a fraud like all the others. Because once they would tell you about your future, Read more…

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How to Get Rid of Trust Issues

Do you always seem to get involved with the wrong people when it comes to friendship, business or your love life? Do you feel like every time you give someone the benefit of the doubt, they waste that second chance and throw it back in your face twice as hard? Read more…

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How to Let Go of the Past

Who am I? It’s a surprisingly tough question to answer for most people, especially considering we live in a society that’s mostly centered around individuality. When we came into this world we had no idea that we were an individual on this planet. That realization must’ve shaken us to our Read more…

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The Loss of the Process

[This is an excerpt from my book "The 7 Traits You'll Need to Survive In the Digital Age", if you'd like to read the full thing, you can get instant access on this page.] For most of humanity’s history, we had to work to get our basic needs met. And Read more…

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Is Your Confidence Real or Fake?

Would you consider yourself a confident person? According to an article I stumbled upon, 2 out of 3 people in the western world consider themselves generally self-confident. You could say that if 33% of people have self-esteem issues, that number is alarmingly high. But let's flip it around for a Read more…

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Innocent Bystanders

When I was a little kid, I got kicked around and abused by the older kids at school. This went anywhere from your average day-to-day bullying to burning my hands by putting them between the rails of the heater, to full-on sexual abuse. Of course my parents could sense that Read more…

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Is (S)he Out of Your League?

Just finished my second video blog! It's about how to deal with being more afraid of approaching attractive strangers than "regular strangers", or feeling more hurt when an attractive person doesn't like you: In terms of progress with these videos:  I'm obviously still going through the stage of "sucking" but I do Read more…

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You Should Go Cry In a Corner

Lately I've been wondering if I should do videos or not and I just decided I totally should.  For 2 reasons: • Some things, especially when they are physical in nature, are just very hard to explain in a blog post • They make me feel really uncomfortable.  I mean, how Read more…

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Embracing Your Dark Side

Most of the people who read this blog (and 100% of the people who write it) are people who strive to -or at least make a conscious effort to- be the best person they can be. We all have some values or ideas in our heads about what constitutes a good Read more…

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Trim Your To-Do List

What if you only had 90 minutes to work every day, but you needed to be exactly as productive as you are now? It may sound like some science fiction scenario dreamed up by a blogger to get more clicks, but for most people it’s actually a surprisingly easy feat to Read more…

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Looking for Shit-brown Linings

If you ever experienced a point in your life, when everything in your life seemed to suck donkey balls, you may have been on the receiving end of the following verbal pat on the back from one of your friends: "Every dark cloud has a silver lining." It's a phrase often tossed Read more…

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Are You on ISIS’ Marketing Team?

  Yesterday a major event happened in the country where I live. Terrorism was all the rage again. It was horrible. People wouldn’t shut up about it. I’m not sure what exactly went down, but this is what I know from the news: • A car was driving really fast, Read more…

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How to Handle Stupid People

You know that feeling when you’re having a conversation with someone and you’ve suddenly hit the edges of their understanding? When you discover that part in someone’s brain where they believe there’s a direct correlation between skin color /sexual orientation / favorite sports team and how much someone deserves to Read more…

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One Day, This Will All Be Over

Yesterday I fasted and cooked up a medicinal psilocybin concoction with a few friends.  It was one of the lightest trips I had ever experienced in terms of "drugginess".  But I did get some very profound new insights about who I am and how I long to relate to others. At one point, Read more…

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The Ultimate Guide to Living the Good Life

Do you sometimes catch yourself dreaming about the good life? Having enough money to spend your days doing all kinds of crazy stuff.  Bungee jumping, lavish parties, being surrounded by lots of gorgeous whatever-type-of-human-it-is-you-dig. Not having anything in the world to worry about? To most of us "regular peeps" it seems like Read more…

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Creating Fertile Soil for Honesty

Are you also disgusted by the way some people can lie to your face without so much as blinking an eye? Do you sometimes wonder if there’s anyone left in your life you can still trust? I know how that feels.  Wondering how some people can still look themselves in Read more…

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The Benefits of Vulnerability

One of the major evolutions I went through in 2016 was learning to make myself as vulnerable as possible.  So it’s kinda strange that I haven’t written anything about it during that year.  Perhaps I was too afraid to expose myself to criticism about it 😉  (I have a rule Read more…

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How to Overcome Writer’s Block

As the tagline so adequately explains, I started this blog as a medium for sharing ideas for a better life, a better world and a better you. I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I also started it as an outlet for self-expression.  To express things that go on Read more…

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Picking Your Friends Consciously

A while ago, my dad was telling me about helping people with serious drug addictions.  After doing this for years, he told me he had learned that the real problem for recovering drug addicts is not the drugs.  It’s the friends. Letting go of your body’s addiction to heroine is one Read more…

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What Is True Rebellion?

As a rebel, it’s surprisingly easy to actually miss the point of being a rebel entirely. I must admit that for most of my life, I didn’t get it.  My whole act of rebellion consisted of criticizing others, being a hater and doing my best to act in ways opposite of Read more…

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How to Have a Perfect Day

One short and simple exercise I did a year ago that had a tremendous impact on what my life looks like today, is to write out what my perfect day would look like. Basically you just take a sheet of paper (or your computer, if you happen to be one Read more…

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How to Stop Being Disappointed

I used to be disappointed every single day. I’d get up somewhere in the afternoon, put my favorite record on, make myself some cocktails and get in a great mood.  Then I’d start to go about my day and something shitty would happen.  Every time. And in response I’d damn Read more…

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The Opposite of Priorities

Without a doubt you’ve heard about “choosing your priorities” before. When you have lots of work to do and very little time (don’t we all?), you make a list of everything that needs to be done and pick out the most important ones. This way, you know what to work Read more…

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Victims & Villains

Does it sometimes seem to you like no one in this World still remembers the meaning of words like “honesty” or “trust”? Like everyone sooner or later stabs you in the back once they get the chance? Like it’s almost impossible to find a man that’s not an asshole or Read more…

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How to Cure Winter Depression

“Winter depression” is a very common thing to get “struck by” this time of the year.  And I’m not immune to either.  Every year when the nights start getting longer and the days colder, I start to become a little more gloomy in my every day attitude. I noticed this Read more…

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Areas of Intimacy

One of the things I like most about meeting new people is the fact that every single one of them is a pretty package full of surprises. No matter how long you’ve known each other, or how well you think you know them: underneath that familiar “tip-of-the-iceberg” face there will always Read more…

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The Other 27 Club

Have you ever heard of the infamous “27 club”? Chances are that you have.  Or perhaps you vaguely recall having heard of it, but don’t remember exactly what it was about or who the members were. The club refers to a number of exceptionally “talented” musicians who all passed away at Read more…

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How Can I Bother You Today?

Imagine life itself came knocking at your door. And the first thing she said was “How can I help you today?”  “You can have any life you desire.  Nothing is impossible.  But after you choose it, there’s no going back.” What would you tell her? Would you tell her you Read more…

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When Are You Helping Your Friends Too Much?

These past 2 weeks, I was feeling a little overwhelmed by everything. All my friends seemed to need my help at the same time.  Of course I wanted to help them more than anything, because that’s what friends do.  But slowly, some sort of resentment started brewing under the surface. Read more…

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How to Overcome Addiction

I have a confession to make:  For most of my teenage years I was addicted. I was going to finish that sentence with “...to alcohol” but as I’ll explain later, I don’t believe that’s true.  Even though it definitely looked like it from an outside perspective. Every time I played a Read more…

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How to Stop Judging People

A couple of weeks ago, in the process of learning how to become financially independent, I was searching high and low for the perfect business idea.  I knew I didn’t just want to do something for quick money. One of those days, I stumbled upon the Japanese concept of "Ikigai" which Read more…

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Maps of Reality

Have you ever seen one of those weird maps from earlier times that just seem very funny and… Well… totally wrong? I’m talking about maps like these: It’s crazy to imagine that somehow people in those times were still able to use them to navigate themselves through the world.  (Okay, Read more…

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My Search for a True Soul-to-Soul Connection

It has always fascinated me how the languages we speak are so rich, nuanced and complicated, yet the better part of our communication happens on a non-verbal level. (Dare I say 70-90%? I always feel like statistics are complete bullshit. But hey, they fill space in newspapers and convince people.  Read more…

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My Last Words

Last week a friend turned me on to an interesting idea. What if you were about to give a speech for the entire population of this planet.  Then suddenly some guy pointed a gun at your head and told you “Give the speech and I’ll let you finish, but I’ll shoot Read more…

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Wave Your Freak Flag

Do you ever feel like you’re just a little different from most of the people around you? Are you and your “BFF” so great together because you’re both completely crazy in a way that no one else understands, but never fails to make the two of you smile? Are there Read more…

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The Manual of Life

When I was a little kid, my favorite toys were always LEGOs.  Hands down. I wouldn’t even listen to anyone claiming that better toys existed. I liked a lot of stuff (let’s face it:  90’s toys were the shit) but there was something special about LEGOs.  They taught me about Read more…

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Free-Flowing Relationships

8 out of 10 times when someone asks me if I have a girlfriend, my answer pisses them off.   I'm not really sure why.  I guess I've just been blessed to meet a lot of people who really care a lot about my love life 😉 That's why I was Read more…

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How to Fix Your Problems the Fast Way

You know how you can sometimes stumble upon a very old online conversation you had with your best friend (or perhaps read a page in your teenage diary) and can’t help but laugh about the pettiness of your problems and how serious they seemed back then? As you got older, Read more…

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Fall In Love with Sucking

Ever looked at a guy who's great with women and wondered “Why can’t that be me?” Ever took a bite of your best friend’s homemade cookies and thought “I want to do that too, but mine always end up tasting like a waste of time” ? Ever told your friend who plays Read more…

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Is This Dying Man More Alive Than You?

I'd like to introduce you to a buddy of mine.  We'll simply call him [Buddy] for the sake of his privacy. [Buddy] and I don't see each other very often anymore but it has come to my attention that in recent years he's drastically turned his life around: He's been traveling the Read more…

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How to Stay Motivated

Someone asked me how I stay motivated every day. The truth is I don't: Motivation is like a one night stand. You share a passionate moment with her and you feel there's a real connection there but you know that when you wake up she might already be gone. It Read more…

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