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Cheap Dates for Broke People

Well hello, my favorite reader!  How have you been? You may have noticed I didn't post any articles last month. Truth is I've been mostly focused on other projects (enjoying the summer, working on the next Wasted24/7 album, my porn career,...).  I did manage to start writing about 5-10 posts.  Read more…

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How to Become More Grateful

During a call with my favorite coachee, we were going over the changes he would like to make in his character.  One of the goals he had written down for himself was “Become more grateful / appreciative of life”. I found this interesting to read.  Because it’s a goal I Read more…

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Take Back Control In Your Love Life

Do you always seem to have bad luck when it comes to the people you date? Well, you’re not alone… Yesterday I posted the following question in a Facebook group about relationships: What's your biggest challenge when it comes to building & maintaining healthy relationships/friendships? Here are some of the Read more…

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Only Blowjobs, Never Sex

I've been getting a lot of questions on Facebook lately from people who I normally don't coach.  As well as a lot of questions I find in groups that I know I can answer, but are too specific for a blog post.  Since my "speaking on camera" skill is still Read more…

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Have We Talked Yet?

Last week I was “at work” (which sounds weird to say, because nowadays “at work” just means wherever I happen to be). Putting my proverbial nose to the equally proverbial grindstone, when I was rudely interrupted by the ever charming sound of an incoming call. At first my instinct told Read more…

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The Angry Shop Manager

Yesterday I was hanging with a bunch of guys.  A good friend who was there, told me to share the story of something that happened about 6 months ago. Because it had a very positive message for the group. Once I remember what he was talking about, it made me wonder: Read more…

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How to Gossip

For as long as I can remember, I hated gossip.  I don't really know why, because I never had any negative experiences with it myself.  I guess it's just that slandering a person while they're not there to defend themselves seemed like very cowardly behavior to me.  Which is a Read more…

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If This Blog Post Offends You, You’re a C*nt

You know the feeling, right? You’re peacefully scrolling through your social media feed while taking a dump, when all of a sudden… It happens. You saw some ignorant fucker posting something outrageously offensive. And you start thinking to yourself “What is wrong with people nowadays??” It doesn’t even have to Read more…

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Sexual Polarity In Relationships

Have you ever been in a relationship where after a while, you started only having sex on weekends? Maybe even less? Or you went on a date with someone who was really good-looking. And you found out that on paper, you were both perfect for each other. But for some Read more…

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Free Happy Pills

What if there was a little pill you could take that would make you happy? A pill with consistent results, but no side-effects. Would you buy it? Of course you would. Now what if you could do that without a pill? Would you go through the effort? If we knew Read more…

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Over-Assuming Responsibility

I was about to step into her car. But a bag of nuts had already taken the front seat. Luckily, the nuts had forgotten to call shotgun. So I picked them up and took their place. But in an unguarded moment, I put the bag away without actually being aware Read more…

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Star Therapy

Is your head always racing with thoughts? Are your problems sometimes keeping you up at night? Congratulations, you are a normal human being 😉 A couple of weeks ago I was flipping through a book I read about a year ago. Called “Tools of Titans” by Tim Ferriss. This is Read more…

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This Perfect Moment

As I’m writing this, I’m looking at an envelope on my desk. It’s an important letter to customs clearance. It’s written, sealed and stamped. But still, it’s been lying there for the past 3 days. Why? In an effort to run my errands more efficiently, I like to batch process Read more…

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Receiving Compliments Completely

A long time ago, one of my best friends told me “You should write a blog post about receiving compliments.” So I said “Great idea! I’ll do that!”. And then I never did it 😉 Just like me at the time, you’re probably wondering what I could even write about Read more…

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Your Motives Determine Your Struggle

An obvious answer seems to be: Do it for a while, and observe how it makes you feel. From a rational perspective, this makes perfect sense. But in reality, it’s not that simple. Because the emotions we feel when we’re doing something do not just spring from the act itself, Read more…

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Are You Growing or Dying?

Imagine you wanted to build bigger biceps. How would you get them to grow? You’d do it by using the following 2 steps: 1. You’d put your biceps in a situation that challenges them. One where they had to work a little harder than they’re used to. Like lifting a Read more…

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How to Forgive People Who Hurt You

What do you think about, when you read the title of this post? Maybe you clicked it because you're tired of not being able to forgive someone who has wronged you.  And now you're looking forward finding out how to fix that. Or if that didn't really sound like you, Read more…

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You Are Not What You Believe

For almost 2 years now, I’ve considered myself a vegan. But lately, I’ve decided to stop doing that. Don’t get me wrong. I will not change my diet. I will still not eat anything a vegan wouldn’t eat. And I won’t use my money to support companies whose behavior towards Read more…

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How to Predict Your Future

It’s pretty much conventional knowledge that predicting the future is impossible. Even if a completely legit, scientifically verified psychic could have a look into your future for you, that very ability would turn them into a fraud like all the others. Because once they would tell you about your future, Read more…

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How to Get Rid of Trust Issues

Do you always seem to get involved with the wrong people when it comes to friendship, business or your love life? Do you feel like every time you give someone the benefit of the doubt, they waste that second chance and throw it back in your face twice as hard? Read more…

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How to Change That Habit By the End of This Month

This morning, someone mentioned a post I had allegedly written about “30-day trials”. And I thought “That’s weird…that post doesn’t exist. Even though I have been doing such trials for years.” So I guess it’s time to write this one. I’m definitely not inventing the warm water here, probably picked Read more…

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How to Let Go of the Past

Who am I? It’s a surprisingly tough question to answer for most people, especially considering we live in a society that’s mostly centered around individuality. When we came into this world we had no idea that we were an individual on this planet. That realization must’ve shaken us to our Read more…

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The Loss of the Process

For most of humanity’s history, we had to work to get our basic needs met. And I don’t mean work like a 9-5 (not that it doesn’t count). The need for food, a safe place to sleep and not getting killed, put a lot of tasks on our proverbial plate. Read more…

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Is Your Confidence Real or Fake?

Would you consider yourself a confident person? According to an article I stumbled upon, 2 out of 3 people in the western world consider themselves generally self-confident. You could say that if 33% of people have self-esteem issues, that number is alarmingly high. But let's flip it around for a Read more…

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Innocent Bystanders

When I was a little kid, I got kicked around and abused by the older kids at school. This went anywhere from your average day-to-day bullying to burning my hands by putting them between the rails of the heater, to full-on sexual abuse. Of course my parents could sense that Read more…

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Is (S)he Out of Your League?

Just finished my second video blog! It's about how to deal with being more afraid of approaching attractive strangers than "regular strangers", or feeling more hurt when an attractive person doesn't like you: In terms of progress with these videos:  I'm obviously still going through the stage of "sucking" but I do Read more…

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The Priming Principle

In our day-to-day life experience, we mostly associate our idea of “having a brain” with the conscious, articulated thoughts we hear inside our head. That math problem we’re solving. The grocery list we’re writing down. The question whether your neighbor’s hot wife really looks at you the way you think Read more…

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You Should Go Cry In a Corner

Lately I've been wondering if I should do videos or not and I just decided I totally should.  For 2 reasons: • Some things, especially when they are physical in nature, are just very hard to explain in a blog post • They make me feel really uncomfortable.  I mean, how Read more…

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Embracing Your Dark Side

Most of the people who read this blog (and 100% of the people who write it) are people who strive to -or at least make a conscious effort to- be the best person they can be. We all have some values or ideas in our heads about what constitutes a good Read more…

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Trim Your To-Do List

What if you only had 90 minutes to work every day, but you needed to be exactly as productive as you are now? It may sound like some science fiction scenario dreamed up by a blogger to get more clicks, but for most people it’s actually a surprisingly easy feat to Read more…

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Looking for Shit-brown Linings

If you ever experienced a point in your life, when everything in your life seemed to suck donkey balls, you may have been on the receiving end of the following verbal pat on the back from one of your friends: "Every dark cloud has a silver lining." It's a phrase often tossed Read more…

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Are You on ISIS’ Marketing Team?

  Yesterday a major event happened in the country where I live. Terrorism was all the rage again. It was horrible. People wouldn’t shut up about it. I’m not sure what exactly went down, but this is what I know from the news: • A car was driving really fast, Read more…

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How to Handle Stupid People

You know that feeling when you’re having a conversation with someone and you’ve suddenly hit the edges of their understanding? When you discover that part in someone’s brain where they believe there’s a direct correlation between skin color /sexual orientation / favorite sports team and how much someone deserves to Read more…

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One Day, This Will All Be Over

Yesterday I fasted and cooked up a medicinal psilocybin concoction with a few friends.  It was one of the lightest trips I had ever experienced in terms of "drugginess".  But I did get some very profound new insights about who I am and how I long to relate to others. At one point, Read more…

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The Ultimate Guide to Living the Good Life

Do you sometimes catch yourself dreaming about the good life? Having enough money to spend your days doing all kinds of crazy stuff.  Bungee jumping, lavish parties, being surrounded by lots of gorgeous whatever-type-of-human-it-is-you-dig. Not having anything in the world to worry about? To most of us "regular peeps" it seems like Read more…

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Creating Fertile Soil for Honesty

Are you also disgusted by the way some people can lie to your face without so much as blinking an eye? Do you sometimes wonder if there’s anyone left in your life you can still trust? I know how that feels.  Wondering how some people can still look themselves in Read more…

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The Benefits of Vulnerability

One of the major evolutions I went through in 2016 was learning to make myself as vulnerable as possible.  So it’s kinda strange that I haven’t written anything about it during that year.  Perhaps I was too afraid to expose myself to criticism about it 😉  (I have a rule Read more…

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How to Overcome Writer’s Block

As the tagline so adequately explains, I started this blog as a medium for sharing ideas for a better life, a better world and a better you. I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I also started it as an outlet for self-expression.  To express things that go on Read more…

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Picking Your Friends Consciously

A while ago, my dad was telling me about helping people with serious drug addictions.  After doing this for years, he told me he had learned that the real problem for recovering drug addicts is not the drugs.  It’s the friends. Letting go of your body’s addiction to heroine is one Read more…

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What Is True Rebellion?

As a rebel, it’s surprisingly easy to actually miss the point of being a rebel entirely. I must admit that for most of my life, I didn’t get it.  My whole act of rebellion consisted of criticizing others, being a hater and doing my best to act in ways opposite of Read more…

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How to Have a Perfect Day

One short and simple exercise I did a year ago that had a tremendous impact on what my life looks like today, is to write out what my perfect day would look like. Basically you just take a sheet of paper (or your computer, if you happen to be one Read more…

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How to Stop Being Disappointed

I used to be disappointed every single day. I’d get up somewhere in the afternoon, put my favorite record on, make myself some cocktails and get in a great mood.  Then I’d start to go about my day and something shitty would happen.  Every time. And in response I’d damn Read more…

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The Opposite of Priorities

Without a doubt you’ve heard about “choosing your priorities” before. When you have lots of work to do and very little time (don’t we all?), you make a list of everything that needs to be done and pick out the most important ones. This way, you know what to work Read more…

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Victims & Villains

Does it sometimes seem to you like no one in this World still remembers the meaning of words like “honesty” or “trust”? Like everyone sooner or later stabs you in the back once they get the chance? Like it’s almost impossible to find a man that’s not an asshole or Read more…

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How to Cure Winter Depression

“Winter depression” is a very common thing to get “struck by” this time of the year.  And I’m not immune to either.  Every year when the nights start getting longer and the days colder, I start to become a little more gloomy in my every day attitude. I noticed this Read more…

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Areas of Intimacy

One of the things I like most about meeting new people is the fact that every single one of them is a pretty package full of surprises. No matter how long you’ve known each other, or how well you think you know them: underneath that familiar “tip-of-the-iceberg” face there will always Read more…

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The Other 27 Club

Have you ever heard of the infamous “27 club”? Chances are that you have.  Or perhaps you vaguely recall having heard of it, but don’t remember exactly what it was about or who the members were. The club refers to a number of exceptionally “talented” musicians who all passed away at Read more…

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How Can I Bother You Today?

Imagine life itself came knocking at your door. And the first thing she said was “How can I help you today?”  “You can have any life you desire.  Nothing is impossible.  But after you choose it, there’s no going back.” What would you tell her? Would you tell her you Read more…

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How to Overcome Addiction

I have a confession to make:  For most of my teenage years I was addicted. I was going to finish that sentence with “...to alcohol” but as I’ll explain later, I don’t believe that’s true.  Even though it definitely looked like it from an outside perspective. Every time I played a Read more…

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How to Stop Judging People

A couple of weeks ago, in the process of learning how to become financially independent, I was searching high and low for the perfect business idea.  I knew I didn’t just want to do something for quick money. One of those days, I stumbled upon the Japanese concept of "Ikigai" which Read more…

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Maps of Reality

Have you ever seen one of those weird maps from earlier times that just seem very funny and… Well… totally wrong? I’m talking about maps like these: It’s crazy to imagine that somehow people in those times were still able to use them to navigate themselves through the world.  (Okay, Read more…

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My Search for a True Soul-to-Soul Connection

It has always fascinated me how the languages we speak are so rich, nuanced and complicated, yet the better part of our communication happens on a non-verbal level. (Dare I say 70-90%? I always feel like statistics are complete bullshit. But hey, they fill space in newspapers and convince people.  Read more…

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My Last Words

Last week a friend turned me on to an interesting idea. What if you were about to give a speech for the entire population of this planet.  Then suddenly some guy pointed a gun at your head and told you “Give the speech and I’ll let you finish, but I’ll shoot Read more…

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Wave Your Freak Flag

Do you ever feel like you’re just a little different from most of the people around you? Are you and your “BFF” so great together because you’re both completely crazy in a way that no one else understands, but never fails to make the two of you smile? Are there Read more…

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The Manual of Life

When I was a little kid, my favorite toys were always LEGOs.  Hands down. I wouldn’t even listen to anyone claiming that better toys existed. I liked a lot of stuff (let’s face it:  90’s toys were the shit) but there was something special about LEGOs.  They taught me about Read more…

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