What if there was a little pill you could take that would make you happy? A pill with consistent results, but no side-effects. Would you buy it?
Of course you would.
Now what if you could do that without a pill? Would you go through the effort?
If we knew exactly what to do that would make us insta-happy. I guess we all would. In fact, you could argue that we’re already doing it. If you look at all our actions that are not directly related to surviving, almost everything we do is an effort to become happy. The people we hang out with. The hobbies we have or things we do. the stuff we buy… Underneath the “reasons” we have for doing these things, the core drive is “because I think it will make me happy”.
The truth is though, that it’s not what we have or what we do that makes us happy. It’s the way we view those things. For the most part, it’s what you think and how you feel about our life that decides how satisfied you are with it. One person’s misery is an other person’s fun.
I’ve written before about how we all have a different “map of reality” . In short: The biggest part of reality is completely subjective. And the way you look at the world around you is what determines which type of reality you experience.
Now as far as happy pills go, I’d love to share a very simple way of looking at the world that consistently makes me happy. I usually look at the world this way while going through my “normal” life. If I ever get a little stressed out, taking a step back and reminding myself of this perspective, always brings me right back to happiness.
The Happy Narrative
“How unbelievably cool is it that I get to be alive? If I’m lucky, I might even get to exist in this physical world for 80 years or more. And if not. At least I get to be alive right now. Seriously, how cool is that?
But wait… It gets better! I get the chance to walk around on this planet and look at stuff. Like the stars. A nice sunset. A beautiful building. An animal. A gorgeous woman passing by…
Hey, wait a minute! She is ALSO alive! And she’s not the only woman. There’s all kinds of people here. And I get to interact with them. Which is super fascinating. Because they all live entire lives just like me. And they have vast worlds full of thoughts and feelings in their head, that I can maybe catch a glimpse of if I spend some time with them. Maybe then they can see a little into my soul as well. And sometimes we feel things called emotions, and they add flavor to our day.
It sounds so simple but if you think about it, it’s fucking magic. And have the chance to that every day.
What’s that? I have a body. And if I touch it, it feels good. Even better if one of those other amazing “alive” people touch it. I can feel the fabric of my clothes hug my body. I can take them off, take a hot or cold shower and it’s one of the best things I’ve ever felt.
I can taste and smell things. I can hear noises, and sometimes they just happen to follow each other in a way that pleases me. Than I can dance to that rhythm or say “Woah dude!!!” to someone else who hears the song.
I can do these things every single day.
How fucking awesome is this place? I hope I’m still here tomorrow 🙂 “
Is This Delusional Thinking?
It may sound like an oversimplified or childish perspective of looking at things. Negative Nancies could always counter argue with “Yeah there’s other humans here, alright… But they’re horrible people.” Or “I never get touched by someone else.”
Is there truth to any of those arguments? Yeah, it’s possible. But that’s not was important. A much more important question to ask yourself is:
Is that perspective serving you well? Does it make you happy to look at the world like that?
I’m not telling you to be blind to the truth. I’m merely suggesting to be mindful of the aspects of the truth that you highlight. The thoughts you decorate your inner world with.
Would you place your living room full of objects that make you pissed off or sad?
Of course not.
So then why would you do that with the space inside your head?
If you’re currently not as happy as you’d like to be. Try taking on this perspective for at least a month and watch your life transform (I’m not kidding).
Say these things to yourself every single day.
The cool thing is. You won’t even be making shit up.
Because every thing I mentioned is 100% real and true, every day.
But as you go through those days, it’s just up to you whether you choose to stay aware of them or not.
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