As the tagline so adequately explains, I started this blog as a medium for sharing ideas for a better life, a better world and a better you.
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I also started it as an outlet for self-expression. To express things that go on inside of me that I found I could not adequately convey through music. That said, the benefit of other people is still my number one goal here. Otherwise I could easily just post a rant full of random personal ramblings every day. Kinda like I’m doing now 😉
Recently I’ve found myself in a bit of a predicament when it comes to what content to put out.
For about a year now, I’ve been disgustingly happy. That doesn’t mean I never feel “negative” emotions. I get sad sometimes, and occasionally something frustrates me. But in general I’m happy to a degree my former self would’ve deemed impossible. I’m happy in a way that’s not temporary. It’s not a “hyped” up state. I am simply happy for no reason except being alive.
And since my aim is to share anything I know can help people, I should start writing about the many things that contributed to elevating my “baseline emotion” to one of joy and love, instead neutrality or worse.
But with the exceptions of some practical things (increasing my productivity, etc.) all that contributed to me feeling that way, is rather spiritual in nature. One for one, they required from me to transcend my strong exclusive faith in science and become more open-minded.
I feel a strong resistance towards sharing these things. Mainly because 1,5 years ago, I still judged the shit out of anyone who would talk "spiritual mumbo jumbo" to me.
For my entire life, my mom had been sharing lots of valuable knowledge about spirituality with me. But my unshakeable belief in science caused me to reject the very notion that there could be any valid perspective on anything from a spiritual angle.
And the fact that the people who spread these kinds of messages are generally brainwashed by a religion or cult, or living in denial of some very important aspects of their lives (the material world, or sexuality, just to name a few), didn’t really contribute a lot to making me less judgmental.
So whenever such a subject came up, I’d start hammering it into the ground with arguments why it was all bullshit.
But as you know, whenever you find yourself defending an opinion as if it was your own life, that’s a pretty clear sign you’re living in denial.
If the above sounds a lot like you, it might help to ask yourself: What are you defending here? Why would you go through so much effort just to prove yourself that your opinion is the right one? Why would it matter that someone else doesn’t see that?
If you are that involved in proving your opinion is right, there’s a pretty big chance you’re pushing away an important part of reality that you don’t want to face.
Of course, I only see how stubborn I was identified with my own opinion as an atheist and science aficionado in hindsight.
Back then I would’ve just believed I stood up for truth.
But as 2016 progressed, lots of things happened that forced me to broaden my perspective and open up my mind. And they turned me into a very spiritual person.
I know I’ll never believe in a god personified. But now that I’ve immersed myself in their books, I’m also convinced that the original teachings of most major religions did not even include such a god.
I think that’s what the priests made of it to use the exact knowledge that could set people free, as a tool to enslave and control them.
As I experienced more and more things in my life I’d consider “spiritual awakenings”, I realized those things were exactly what all those religions were originally talking about. And that they weren't as airy fairy in nature, as they made it sound, but that explaining it in another way was simply very hard to do.
They were also exactly the things that made everything in my life better: My relationship with myself, with other people, with the world. The work I was doing. And they were impossible to explain in scientific terms, because they were so subjective in nature.
Luckily, I was blessed with some friends who went through a similar shift in mindset at the same time. And they had similar results. So this confirmed to me I wasn’t crazy.
The Things I Never Wrote About
For that reason, if I’d stay true to my mission in life as a person, that means I would need to start writing about things of that nature from time to time. If I really want to share the things I’ve benefitted most from in life, I’d have to also open up about things like:
- Surrendering to the bigger force at work (as in nature, not god, unless… Nature is god 😉 )
- Subjective reality
- The flow and management of energy
- Connecting with the timeless essence of being human
- Law of attraction in a practical way (not the way most people interpret it)
- Spiritual seduction
- The difference between your ego and your higher self, etc.
So why didn’t I do that yet?
Because of how hard I used to judge other people for stuff like that.
So I expect the outside world to judge me as well. Which is why for the entire year, I’ve refrained from writing about such subjects. I’m afraid of losing credibility for some people, which might cause them to stop taking more scientific or down-to-earth advice on this blog to heart as well.
Of course, I’ve always known to live in integrity with my own values, that means I have to stop giving a single fuck about that. And start including some articles about those subjects too. Within the scope of what I’m able to convey in written words.
A Writing Retreat
As an experiment for this month, I’ve decided to take a full week (January 9th – 15th) in which I would write for 60-100 hours. First I’ll write enough articles for the entire month of January and the first 2 weeks of February (which I’ll spend on vacation in Africa). Then if I have enough time left, I’ll spend the remaining hours of my work week to write for my book.
I’ve never done so much writing on end before, but it was interesting to do.
The first 3 articles I posted this month were very safe and practical in nature. Then I came up with a couple of articles about things I’ve been meaning to write about for a long time. These articles felt very inspired, flowed effortlessly, and I liked the result. All of them are scheduled to be posted.
I also wrote a little unfocused rant about all kinds of random things, but I felt it held lots of practical value. As an experiment (to see what response I get), I posted that one yesterday (which is weird to say, as it just means this post was schedule a day before the one I'm writing now 😉 )
However, now that I’m done with those. It seems like all inspiration is gone.
Is it though? I still have a list of about 30 lessons I learned in life that I want to share. But whenever I start to write the article, nothing comes out.
Why would that be?
I noticed it’s because those are all “riskier subjects”. One by one, they are always related to spirituality or sex.
So would you say that a lack of inspiration is the problem here? Or am I stopping myself from being inspired?
How to Beat Writer's Block
Thinking back on how I cured writer’s block as a songwriter, that makes it pretty clear what I need to do:
I overcame it by not being afraid of getting judged any more.
There used to be a very judgmental attitude in the band I play in when it came to songwriting. The vibe was rather competitive. When I came in with a song, the first thing that happened was that I had to hear “it sucked and it was the worst song ever”, but on the other hand those same people weren’t able to deal with constructive criticism.
As soon as the vibe in the band changed, and I found myself surrounded by positive people -a position in which it felt safe to share even the songs I myself had doubts about with them without receiving any insults- I stopped giving a fuck.
Now I could let my creativity run free and write from the heart. Every song I write since then is simply a vehicle for self-expression and musical experimentation. After that, the band gets to decide whether they like this particular outlet of self-expression enough to start improving it to the point where we can include it on an album. But I never get judged for it, neither do I judge them for their creative outlets. Because I know how beautiful those things are in itself. Listening to a piece of music that literally is a glimpse into the soul of one of my best friends is just amazing.
Nowadays song ideas are abundant for me. I get about 10 ideas for songs a week. I’d never have time to finish all of them if I want to do anything else with my life.
When I compare this evolution in the “eco-system” of our band, it becomes clear to me that the reason I’m uninspired to continue writing at the moment is the fact that I am a creating a similar internal eco-system for myself.
One in which I judge myself for my own creations before I’ve written them. Where I already imagine people saying things like “That’s bullshit!” “Life is not that simple!” “You’re stupid and ignorant and you don’t know what you’re talking about!” when the truth is that I have no way of knowing what people will think of my writing up front. In fact, history proves that the things I’m most afraid of receiving criticism for, are the things people end up liking the most.
So if I want to enjoy the same level of creative freedom for this blog, that I enjoy while writing or playing music, that means I’ll need to stop giving a fuck about what people think about it. Including myself. Besides, am I not the same guy who preaches sucking in public is a good thing? (Not in that way, you dirty mind! But I agree that also is a good thing 😉 )
Adressing the Root Cause
Considering what causes it, getting out of writer's block is actually pretty easy if you're willing to see it for what it actually is.
Writer's block is not a lack of inspiration.
Writer's block is not a lack of energy or focus to keep on writing (that would be called “writer's fatigue”).
Writer's block is just what it says. It’s a block.
You’re blocking yourself from listening to the inspiration because you’re judging it. You’re blocking yourself from authentic, free expression because you’re afraid of the responses you might receive.
Once you decide to release this block and stop giving a fuck (writing whatever comes to mind as if you had no audience), you automatically fix the problem.
In fact, this article just wrote itself after deciding to release that block 😉
Now if you’ll excuse me, I still have about 27 hours of writing left to do. During which I won’t censor myself 😉
Lots of love for you, and I wish you a year full of authentic self-expression 🙂
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