What would you seriously do if you were stuck with a boss like this?
Consider this scenario:
The first thing they do when you see them is to consistently remind you of everything you haven't done that you're behind on.
Then, after they've made you feel bad for not doing what you should have done, they instantly pile on so much pressure on you and make everything so complicated as a result that you're afraid to even begin whatever it was that you were meant to be doing.
In fact, they go out of their way to overcomplicate things for you.
No matter what you did, all they focused on was what you hadn't done and never once encouraged you throughout the day, despite all the things you've accomplished. As soon as you finish, they say "what's next? Cmon, get a move on, stop wasting time!".
Then they overwhelm you so much that you do things which just take up your time, so you keep yourself busy, even though you know this isn't really contributing towards what really makes you happy, but you do it anyway because you're going to be reminded of everything you haven't accomplished by your boss if you don't do it.
And no matter how much you did, they never said "good job" or "well done" or acknowledged all the great things you've done over the past days, weeks or even months.
Not a peep.
..Would you keep working for them?
Now, let me ask you another question:
Then WHY do you do it to yourself?
The boss isn't really your boss. It's you.
We have this tendency everyday to focus on all that we've got left to do.
What we haven't accomplished yet.
All the actions we haven't taken.
All the things on the 'to-do' list.
Keeping busy, taking actions without any real meaning or purpose and putting on unrealistic demands and unnecessary pressure on things which didn't actually matter that much.
On average, a parent/teacher compliments a child at a ratio of 9:1 - That is, for every 9 times you're told off, you're encouraged once.
And this is how we live as a majority. Always focusing on what's missing, never acknowledging that everything that we've accomplished was once just a dream.
A thought and an idea in your head. That now exists. Because your entire existence has been built upon doing what was once beyond comprehension.
You MUST back yourself. You must become your biggest supporter. Talk to yourself the way you talk to your best friend.
You're the only person that you spend 24 hours of your day with.
Be kind to yourself. Back yourself at every level. Tell yourself to own your shit. Be your own best friend and kick your own ass when you spiral into some bullshit story and tell yourself that it IS just bullshit and anytime you've REALLY REALLY wanted something, you've done whatever it took to get it. And you have.
Encourage yourself. Remind yourself of everything that exists right now in your life that was once just a dream..
..and that you've built your entire existence through achieving what was once impossible.
Recognise that impossible really is just a dare.
An illusion. A figment of the imagination.
That throughout the entire existence of our species, you are the result of evolution itself at it's prime and in front of the untapped reservoir of innate human potential:
Impossible is nothing.
For once, this post was not written by me. It was written by my friend Devesh in a private Facebook group, but I liked it so much that I asked him if I could post it here.
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