I just decided to do this simple experiment next week and I'm inviting you to join me:

While I made my last post mainly because I hate wasting time, it got me thinking.

Too often, we all resort to small talk and safe topics because we are afraid to open up. We simply use it as a protective layer of meaningless fluff to avoid making ourselves vulnerable.

It's easy to deceive yourself into believing you have a lot of friends because you have a lot of likes on Facebook or hang out with a lot of people in real life.  But how many of these people really know you on a deep level?  Would it scare you if they did?

What's the worst that could happen?  Perhaps they could "expose" you to more people, but that wouldn't be a problem in the first place if you weren't afraid of them getting to know you as well.

Even though I already do this as much as possible, next week I will challenge myself to eliminate ALL small talk from conversations for a week.

I would love it if you did this with me so we could share our experience with each other.

This means:

• Skipping the "Hey how you doin'?" "'sup, bra?" and getting straight to what you have to say.

• No talking about the weather, terrorism, soccer, Justin Bieber's tits or anything on television unless it genuinely moves you.

• When people ask you about yourself, don't say "I study X or work at Y" unless you're so passionate about it that it really defines who you are. In any other case, tell them about the things you love, the things that make you special. Tell them who you really are.

I truly believe that if we do this, it will open us up and change our lives and those of others for the better.

So why not give it a shot, it's only seven days, right?

After that, you can go back to talking about Justin Bieber's tits as much as you want 😉

 

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