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Will Your Pride Cause You to End Up Broke and Alone?

What are some things you are especially proud of? I’ve never been the kind of person who takes pride in possessions or popularity. But one thing I often took pride in was being different. For example  :When I got the chance to give a guest lecture at a university without even having a high school degree, I probably felt more pride than gratefulness. I often took pride in defying social norms as well. Like rarely Read more…

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Why Is Every Guy I End Up With a Jerk (or Every Woman a Psycho)?

We all know someone (or are someone) who always ends up falling for the wrong people. Every girlfriend turns out to be a manipulative psycho, or every guy you meet ends up treating you like shit. This is a common pattern you see over and over again. But then again, there’s also a lot of people who don’t seem to have it. What are these people doing differently? Are they just lucky to be born Read more…

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This Perfect Moment

As I’m writing this, I’m looking at an envelope on my desk. It’s an important letter to customs clearance. It’s written, sealed and stamped. But still, it’s been lying there for the past 3 days. Why? In an effort to run my errands more efficiently, I like to batch process tasks that can be done at the same location. For example, if I get a call that a package has arrived but I also want Read more…

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How Blessing Your Food Makes Your Life More Awesome

I’ve been doing this thing lately where at the start of every month, I sit down and decide what the overarching “theme” or “project” for my month will be. Something to completely immerse myself in for 30 days that will make my life more interesting or yield some kind of personal growth benefit. This could literally be anything as long as it excites me and I can go deep in it. So yes, that includes Read more…

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Receiving Compliments Completely

A long time ago, one of my best friends told me “You should write a blog post about receiving compliments.” So I said “Great idea! I’ll do that!”. And then I never did it 😉 Just like me at the time, you’re probably wondering what I could even write about it that you don’t already know. It’s simple right? You just say “Thanks” and enjoy the dopamine spike. What else is there to be said Read more…

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The Surprising Solution to 99% of Your Relationship / Friendship Issues

You know those moments when you feel like something’s wrong between you and someone you care about and you have no idea what to do about it? Maybe you can think of a situation like that right now... This could be an issue you have your partner, one of your friends or a co-worker you spend most of your day with. Who this person is doesn’t really matter. The point is: The situation means enough Read more…

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What Do You Have In Common with a Truck Driver?

Hey there reader!  Are you a truck driver? I'm guessing most people who read this are not (though I know for sure one person who will read this is a truck driver, so when you read this: Hi there, friend!) Which makes sense, because this not a blog about trucks.  Not even about driving. So what is this post about then?  What's that thing truck drivers have, that you have too? Is it that the Read more…

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Why Your Identity Crisis Is an Awesome Thing

Have you ever gone through a serious identity crisis? It’s a weird feeling that can occur out of nowhere. At best, not being sure who you are (or what you stand for) anymore, can be very confusing. Worst case, it’s an endless source of frustration that robs you of your lust for life. Until a few weeks ago, I had been struggling with that feeling all year. Which made 2017 seem considerably less epic than Read more…

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Your Motives Determine Your Struggle

An obvious answer seems to be: Do it for a while, and observe how it makes you feel. From a rational perspective, this makes perfect sense. But in reality, it’s not that simple. Because the emotions we feel when we’re doing something do not just spring from the act itself, but also from the context.   And that context is mostly determined by the intention behind what we’re doing. So if you follow the simple logic of Read more…

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Are You Growing or Dying?

Imagine you wanted to build bigger biceps. How would you get them to grow? You’d do it by using the following 2 steps: 1. You’d put your biceps in a situation that challenges them. One where they had to work a little harder than they’re used to. Like lifting a barbell with some weights attached to it. 2. You’d go through a little extra effort to nourish them with good food and adequate rest. This Read more…

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How to Forgive People Who Hurt You

What do you think about, when you read the title of this post? Maybe you clicked it because you're tired of not being able to forgive someone who has wronged you.  And now you're looking forward finding out how to fix that. Or if that didn't really sound like you, maybe you were thinking something more along the lines of "Why would I even want to learn how to forgive someone?" If that's the case, I understand how Read more…

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How to Deal with Your Hate for Society and Humans

  The world is completely and utterly fucked. There’s war, hunger and inequality everywhere. Even in the most wealthy parts of the world, terrorists are still blowing up random innocent people. The government lies to you. People behaving like mindless robots, trapped in this 9-5 rat race that makes you crazy, tired as fuck and goes against your very nature.  And to cope with that they ruin their bodies with junkfood and numb their minds Read more…

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You Are Not What You Believe

For almost 2 years now, I’ve considered myself a vegan. But lately, I’ve decided to stop doing that. Don’t get me wrong. I will not change my diet. I will still not eat anything a vegan wouldn’t eat. And I won’t use my money to support companies whose behavior towards animals (including humans), I don’t condone. Basically, I will do all the same things a vegan does. But I won’t be one anymore. Does that Read more…

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Should You Follow Your Dreams or “Be Realistic”? – Advice from 6 People Who Actually DID It

These last few months, I was in a bit of a pickle. Not a physical pickle of course. Most pickles are too small for me to fit in there. Not that I actually tried it or anything... But we're talking about proverbial pickle here: Compared to the small amount of traffic I get, this blog is making me a spectacular amount of money. However, compared to the poverty line, my income falls way below that. I Read more…

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How to Predict Your Future

It’s pretty much conventional knowledge that predicting the future is impossible. Even if a completely legit, scientifically verified psychic could have a look into your future for you, that very ability would turn them into a fraud like all the others. Because once they would tell you about your future, you would start anticipating to some of the events. You’d alter your behavior to prevent the biggest tragedies. Which would cause them not to happen, Read more…

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How to Stop Worrying About Rejection Completely

You’re walking down the street (or stumbling through a bar), and suddenly it happens… A particularly delicious human specimen caught your attention. Come to think of it, delicious may be the wrong word to describe this person. A bowl of blueberries is delicious, but most blueberries in it are just as delicious as the next one. In this case, someone’s particular shade of deliciousness managed to rise above all the other blueberries in the bowl Read more…

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How to Get Rid of Trust Issues

Do you always seem to get involved with the wrong people when it comes to friendship, business or your love life? Do you feel like every time you give someone the benefit of the doubt, they waste that second chance and throw it back in your face twice as hard? Then you’re lucky!  (I know, terrible choice of words 😉 )  Because this will show you exactly how to create a situation for yourself where Read more…

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Are You Stopping Your Thoughts from Manifesting?

In case you were wondering... nope! I’m not here to reinvent myself as a law of attraction guru and completely change the subject matter of this blog. I’m here for some real talk though. Lots of things that you think, even when you say those thoughts to yourself every day, do not become reality. Does that mean the law of attraction isn’t real? Or that it does work but you’re doing it wrong? That doesn’t Read more…

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How to Instantly Break a Habit When Nothing Else Works

There’s a shit ton of articles in the so-called blogosphere about quitting bad habits. Most of them are filled with generic advice that everyone who possesses some common sense (which is almost everyone, or it would be called “uncommon sense”) would be able to think of. Things like: “If you want to stop eating unhealthy, get rid of all the unhealthy food in your kitchen that can tempt you.”, while true, do not require the Read more…

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These 6 Touching Suicide Survivor Stories Will Make You Want to Choose Life

Years ago, I had a best friend who I connected with on levels that I never did with other people. It felt like my first soul-mate, if such a thing exists in a platonic way. Every night I’d hop the fence surrounding his studio (he wasn’t allowed to have visitors past 10PM) and we’d spend the entire night talking about society, the nature of people and how exactly we were going to win at life. Read more…

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How to Change That Habit By the End of This Month

This morning, someone mentioned a post I had allegedly written about “30-day trials”. And I thought “That’s weird…that post doesn’t exist. Even though I have been doing such trials for years.” So I guess it’s time to write this one. I’m definitely not inventing the warm water here, probably picked it up from a book. But hey, enjoy it any way 😉   What Is a 30 Day Trial? Before software programmers started disabling all Read more…

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How to Let Go of the Past

Who am I? It’s a surprisingly tough question to answer for most people, especially considering we live in a society that’s mostly centered around individuality. When we came into this world we had no idea that we were an individual on this planet. That realization must’ve shaken us to our very cores. “Wait a minute?” We must’ve thought (or at least the equivalent of that in baby language), “If I am a person, then which Read more…

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The Loss of the Process

[This is an excerpt from my book "The 7 Traits You'll Need to Survive In the Digital Age", if you'd like to read the full thing, you can get instant access on this page.] For most of humanity’s history, we had to work to get our basic needs met. And I don’t mean work like a 9-5 (not that it doesn’t count). The need for food, a safe place to sleep and not getting killed, Read more…

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How to Stop Being the Guy That Never Has Anything to Say

Do you sometimes feel like you’re the only one in a group who never has anything to say? Maybe even as if it made no difference to the conversation at all whether you’re there or not? Well, you’re not alone. Yesterday I met up with a reader who told me he had this problem. He always feels like the quiet guy in the background. When he’s in a group of friends, the things he says Read more…

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The Surprising Reason Why You Can’t Lose Those Last 5 Pounds

You know how it goes, right? You set a goal to lose 20 pounds/kilos/inches from your waist (let’s hope it’s not the last one 😉 ), and by virtue of your immense willpower and dedication, you succeed in losing the first 15. But then something happens. For some reason, you can’t lose the last 5. You already work out as much and as hard as you can, and you follow the method consistently. But it’s Read more…

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Is Your Confidence Real or Fake?

Would you consider yourself a confident person? According to an article I stumbled upon, 2 out of 3 people in the western world consider themselves generally self-confident. You could say that if 33% of people have self-esteem issues, that number is alarmingly high. But let's flip it around for a minute... 66% of people claim to feel generally confident. Again, let that number linger in your head a little. 66%...  That's 2 out of 3 people! Read more…

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What If Your Partner Is Less Into BDSM Than You?

Took another shot at learning to speak on camera today.  Here's the video with my personal notes after watching it! Improvements compared to the last one: • I found it much easier to create a structured conversation without relying on any notes.  Still not as good as while I'm writing, but hey, it's only the third time.  Probably would've explained this better with a whiteboard though.  Food for thought 😉 • I actually wore a Read more…

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Innocent Bystanders

When I was a little kid, I got kicked around and abused by the older kids at school. This went anywhere from your average day-to-day bullying to burning my hands by putting them between the rails of the heater, to full-on sexual abuse. Of course my parents could sense that something was up. I had transformed from being an adventurous extroverted kid to a fearful introvert, and I could be mean to my younger brother at Read more…

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Finding the Lessons In Your Relationship

My first “relationship” was a total mess.  We stayed together for about a month and the break up screwed me up for at least 6. When it was over, I blamed her for every dramatically exaggerated emotion I went through. Because when you looked at the facts, it seemed clear she should’ve at least taken off her sharp, high heels before stomping all over my angsty adolescent heart. My boy logic was infallible: If a Read more…

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Is (S)he Out of Your League?

Just finished my second video blog! It's about how to deal with being more afraid of approaching attractive strangers than "regular strangers", or feeling more hurt when an attractive person doesn't like you: In terms of progress with these videos:  I'm obviously still going through the stage of "sucking" but I do think there's already some improvement over the first one I made: I ditched the filter, and a good friend gave me some advice about natural Read more…

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This Exercise Will Make You More Open-Minded In 20 Minutes

There was an interesting Facebook status that popped up on my news feed today, from a guy named Mario Tomic (apparently he has quite a following as well). He was talking about how he noticed most people on social media get extremely upset when they see a piece of information that challenges their current beliefs (in other words, cognitive dissonance on social media). Another thing he mentioned was the opposite:  How people most often use the internet to Read more…

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The Priming Principle

[This is a small excerpt from my book "The 7 Traits You'll Need to Survive In the Digital Age", if you'd like to read the full thing, you can get instant access on this page.]   The Priming Principle In our day-to-day life experience, we mostly associate our idea of “having a brain” with the conscious, articulated thoughts we hear inside our head. That math problem we’re solving. The grocery list we’re writing down. The Read more…

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You Should Go Cry In a Corner

Lately I've been wondering if I should do videos or not and I just decided I totally should.  For 2 reasons: • Some things, especially when they are physical in nature, are just very hard to explain in a blog post • They make me feel really uncomfortable.  I mean, how are you supposed to capture the vibe of talking to someone when they are not there? :-p  So this will be a nice growth experiment. Read more…

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Embracing Your Dark Side

Most of the people who read this blog (and 100% of the people who write it) are people who strive to -or at least make a conscious effort to- be the best person they can be. We all have some values or ideas in our heads about what constitutes a good person, and we aim to behave in that manner. So you can safely assume that you and me have good intentions and try to do Read more…

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This Mindset Change Could Change the World

Is there any real benefit to helping other people?  Isn’t it a lot smarter to make sure we have everything we need first?  Shouldn’t everyone just deal with their own shit? I mean, as long as you don’t actively make their situation worse (like by working at a debt collection agency), you’re a good guy, right?  Why should you bother to care about anything else? Different people always have different answers to these kinds of Read more…

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Trim Your To-Do List

What if you only had 90 minutes to work every day, but you needed to be exactly as productive as you are now? It may sound like some science fiction scenario dreamed up by a blogger to get more clicks, but for most people it’s actually a surprisingly easy feat to accomplish. The typical American office worker only does about 90 minutes of real work per workday. The rest of their day is spent on things Read more…

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Looking for Shit-brown Linings

If you ever experienced a point in your life, when everything in your life seemed to suck donkey balls, you may have been on the receiving end of the following verbal pat on the back from one of your friends: "Every dark cloud has a silver lining." It's a phrase often tossed around in the general direction of otherwise normal people who go through a period during which they smell of hopelessness, broken dreams and empty bottles Read more…

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Are You on ISIS’ Marketing Team?

  Yesterday a major event happened in the country where I live. Terrorism was all the rage again. It was horrible. People wouldn’t shut up about it. I’m not sure what exactly went down, but this is what I know from the news: • A car was driving really fast, trying to hit pedestrians • Luckily all of them were able to avoid getting hit by jumping away in time • The driver’s name was Read more…

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Stop Chasing Enlightenment and Eat Your Damn Bread

If I would have to pick one important thing 2016 has done for me, it would be spiritual growth. I didn’t seek it though.  I didn’t even want that shit at first. In fact, I used to judge the crap out of those spiritual woo-woo people. I just happened to be lucky enough to go through a series of events and experiences that had a profound impact on the way I perceive life, the universe Read more…

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How to Handle Stupid People

You know that feeling when you’re having a conversation with someone and you’ve suddenly hit the edges of their understanding? When you discover that part in someone’s brain where they believe there’s a direct correlation between skin color /sexual orientation / favorite sports team and how much someone deserves to be kicked in the face.  Or think not having the required form or paper makes it physically impossible to do something. A 5-year-old could understand what Read more…

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One Day, This Will All Be Over

Yesterday I fasted and cooked up a medicinal psilocybin concoction with a few friends.  It was one of the lightest trips I had ever experienced in terms of "drugginess".  But I did get some very profound new insights about who I am and how I long to relate to others. At one point, I experienced something I'd describe as very similar to being dead. While in the process of ''dying'', I constantly wanted to tell my friends about Read more…

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Short-Term Pleasure vs Long-Term Happiness

As human beings, we are wired to move towards pleasure and away from pain (though I guess it gets a little more complicated when you’re into S&M).  In essence this is a pretty decent survival strategy.  A lot of painful things can get you killed.  Like great white sharks, psychopaths with chain saws.  Or spray painting your face to disguise yourself before committing a robbery. But at times when you’re not surrounded by sharks and Read more…

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Better Questions to Ask Instead of “Why?”

Remember how as a little kid, people told you what you could or couldn’t do and you didn’t like it? So everyone time someone told you to follow yet another rule, you asked them: “But why?’’ But 9 out of 10 times, you received a very unsatisfying answer like ‘’Because I say so.’ or the cringeworthy ‘’It’s just how things are done around here.’’ So for that reason, most people have simply stopped using that question.  And Read more…

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The 3 Things You Feel Most Uncomfortable Doing

One of my best friends often asks me: “What is the best possible question we can ask ourselves right now?” Which, ironically, often is one of the best possible questions one can ask themselves. Yesterday that question was: “What are the 3 things you need to do, you that would make you most uncomfortable doing?” Here’s what came up for me:   Releasing My Book and Promoting It I’m almost finished writing a book, or perhaps Read more…

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The Ultimate Guide to Living the Good Life

Do you sometimes catch yourself dreaming about the good life? Having enough money to spend your days doing all kinds of crazy stuff.  Bungee jumping, lavish parties, being surrounded by lots of gorgeous whatever-type-of-human-it-is-you-dig. Not having anything in the world to worry about? To most of us "regular peeps" it seems like a far-away fantasy.  One we'll never live to see come true.  (Or one we'll delude ourselves into thinking we're making it coming true while we spend Read more…

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What You Can Learn from the People You Hate

When you look around in the world, what do you see? What kind of people is it filled with?  How do events generally tend to transpire over and over again?  Are there any clear patterns you can recognize? Is it a cruel world?  An unfair world?  Or a fun one filled with love? Is there a lot of misery going on despite the abundance of possibilities? Or does it amaze you how people always find Read more…

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Creating Fertile Soil for Honesty

Are you also disgusted by the way some people can lie to your face without so much as blinking an eye? Do you sometimes wonder if there’s anyone left in your life you can still trust? I know how that feels.  Wondering how some people can still look themselves in the mirror literally used to keep me awake at night. But I’m also a firm believer in assuming as much responsibility for anything in your Read more…

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The Benefits of Vulnerability

One of the major evolutions I went through in 2016 was learning to make myself as vulnerable as possible.  So it’s kinda strange that I haven’t written anything about it during that year.  Perhaps I was too afraid to expose myself to criticism about it 😉  (I have a rule on this blog that any lame jokes I come up with must stay in the final post.) See what I just did there?  I called Read more…

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The One Book You Need to Stop Reading Right Now

During a hypnosis session in which both the hypnotist and my subconscious showed me all sorts of interesting stuff, I was once walking through a big city. There was something strange about the scenery.  Every single person on the street was dressed in the same boring fashion.  And they were all reading books while walking.  In fact, they were holding their open books so close to themselves that I couldn’t see anyone’s face other than Read more…

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How to Overcome Writer’s Block

As the tagline so adequately explains, I started this blog as a medium for sharing ideas for a better life, a better world and a better you. I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I also started it as an outlet for self-expression.  To express things that go on inside of me that I found I could not adequately convey through music.  That said, the benefit of other people is still my number one Read more…

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Joining Instagram, Achieving Instant Success & Having a Harem

Lately I’ve been taking my first baby steps in learning to use Instagram for marketing purposes. So far, the biggest hurdle for me has been getting over some limiting beliefs, and releasing some judgmental opinions that caused me to feel resistance to getting started. One example of a belief I had to overcome was the idea that sharing pictures on social media was worthless: Why would people give a shit about what I’m doing every Read more…

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Picking Your Friends Consciously

A while ago, my dad was telling me about helping people with serious drug addictions.  After doing this for years, he told me he had learned that the real problem for recovering drug addicts is not the drugs.  It’s the friends. Letting go of your body’s addiction to heroine is one thing.  But when you just sobered up after losing all your non-junkie friends to your addiction, where do you go? If the only friends you Read more…

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What Is True Rebellion?

As a rebel, it’s surprisingly easy to actually miss the point of being a rebel entirely. I must admit that for most of my life, I didn’t get it.  My whole act of rebellion consisted of criticizing others, being a hater and doing my best to act in ways opposite of what people expected from me. I wanted to be free so badly that I actually made myself less free by not allowing myself to exhibit Read more…

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How to Have a Perfect Day

One short and simple exercise I did a year ago that had a tremendous impact on what my life looks like today, is to write out what my perfect day would look like. Basically you just take a sheet of paper (or your computer, if you happen to be one of those "hip" modern kids) and turn off all distractions for a moment. Allow yourself to daydream about that one perfect day and write down Read more…

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How to Deal With “Should Have Done’s”

As the end of the year approaches and you’re thinking about your new year’s resolutions, there’s also a chance that thought process may have been plagued –at least to some degree- with the occasional moment of regret. You look back at the past year, and there are some things you really think you were supposed to do but didn’t. Maybe you didn’t succeed in losing those 20 pounds even though you know you could’ve Maybe Read more…

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What Buying Pills In Amsterdam Can Teach You About Life

For the casual drug user arriving in a new city, a big issue can be the one of purity.  Finding something that's not messed with.  A drug that gives you the desired high, yet stays on the safe side. Everyone in the chain of suppliers / sellers wants to make as much profit as they can, so they often cut the drugs and add other stuff that looks like it to make it just a little less pure. Read more…

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How to Stop Being Disappointed

I used to be disappointed every single day. I’d get up somewhere in the afternoon, put my favorite record on, make myself some cocktails and get in a great mood.  Then I’d start to go about my day and something shitty would happen.  Every time. And in response I’d damn the whole fucking day to hell and continue living like a powerless victim of circumstances.   Later I slowly started to realize that disappointment wasn’t Read more…

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The Opposite of Priorities

Without a doubt you’ve heard about “choosing your priorities” before. When you have lots of work to do and very little time (don’t we all?), you make a list of everything that needs to be done and pick out the most important ones. This way, you know what to work on first, and you can leave all the rest for once those tasks are finished. But have you tried doing the opposite? Picking out which Read more…

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Victims & Villains

Does it sometimes seem to you like no one in this World still remembers the meaning of words like “honesty” or “trust”? Like everyone sooner or later stabs you in the back once they get the chance? Like it’s almost impossible to find a man that’s not an asshole or a woman that’s not a cold, heartless bitch?   It sure used to seem that way to me.  All my girlfriends so far had already Read more…

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How to Cure Winter Depression

“Winter depression” is a very common thing to get “struck by” this time of the year.  And I’m not immune to either.  Every year when the nights start getting longer and the days colder, I start to become a little more gloomy in my every day attitude. I noticed this again this year and I started to wonder what the cause of this was.  Last year I had experienced no such thing, so I thought Read more…

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Areas of Intimacy

One of the things I like most about meeting new people is the fact that every single one of them is a pretty package full of surprises. No matter how long you’ve known each other, or how well you think you know them: underneath that familiar “tip-of-the-iceberg” face there will always be a myriad of ways in which you still don’t. If you would dedicate your life to it, you could spend a lifetime getting to Read more…

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Do You Really Need to “Beat Your Fears”?

When you first start taking steps in the direction of improving yourself. Or when trying to make some of your bolder dreams come true, one of the first obstacles you will face are your own fears. Everyone knows that. Everyone knows that, but is it true? I used to be convinced it was.  It’s not hard to be convinced of that.  In fact, why would you question it?  Not only does every self-development guru tell Read more…

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Is Cheating Just a Normal Part of Being a Man?

A little more than a year ago, one of my Facebook friends posted the following status: “Yesterday I broke up with my girl. Reason why? I admitted having cheated on her. She rightly broke up with me. The question I have for you guys, is: ‘Why would anyone do such an action if he already has almost everything he needs to have?’ Have anyone of you guys ever cheated on your girl? Why did you Read more…

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The Other 27 Club

Have you ever heard of the infamous “27 club”? Chances are that you have.  Or perhaps you vaguely recall having heard of it, but don’t remember exactly what it was about or who the members were. The club refers to a number of exceptionally “talented” musicians who all passed away at the age 27.  It includes some of my favorite artists, like Jim Morrison, Kurt Cobain, Jimi Hendrix, Amy Winehouse, Robert Johnson, etc. For each of Read more…

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How Can I Bother You Today?

Imagine life itself came knocking at your door. And the first thing she said was “How can I help you today?”  “You can have any life you desire.  Nothing is impossible.  But after you choose it, there’s no going back.” What would you tell her? Would you tell her you wanted the life of the person with the perfect body? That you want to travel the world? Perhaps become a millionaire? Those are all very Read more…

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When Are You Helping Your Friends Too Much?

These past 2 weeks, I was feeling a little overwhelmed by everything. All my friends seemed to need my help at the same time.  Of course I wanted to help them more than anything, because that’s what friends do.  But slowly, some sort of resentment started brewing under the surface. It started to show up in subtle ways.  For example, when my phone was dead I would make no effort to use someone else’s computer to Read more…

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How to Overcome Addiction

I have a confession to make:  For most of my teenage years I was addicted. I was going to finish that sentence with “...to alcohol” but as I’ll explain later, I don’t believe that’s true.  Even though it definitely looked like it from an outside perspective. Every time I played a gig it was one bottle of whiskey before the gig, one during, and one after.  Every time I went out, we had a couple of Read more…

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Trump Is Just the Tip of the Iceberg, This Is the Real Problem

Let me start of by saying I’m neither a supporter of Trump, nor Hillary.  I dislike both, but there’s already enough people spewing out their opinions about them.  I really don’t think the internet needs more of that.  With this post I hope to get something entirely different going. Whether you’re a right-wing extremist, a Muslim terrorist, or a hard-core Justin Bieber evangelist, there is one thing we can all agree on: A lot of things Read more…

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How to Stop Judging People

A couple of weeks ago, in the process of learning how to become financially independent, I was searching high and low for the perfect business idea.  I knew I didn’t just want to do something for quick money. One of those days, I stumbled upon the Japanese concept of "Ikigai" which almost described exactly what I was looking for. But finding my personal Ikigai didn’t prove to be as easy as it looked.  My buddy and me Read more…

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Maps of Reality

Have you ever seen one of those weird maps from earlier times that just seem very funny and… Well… totally wrong? I’m talking about maps like these: It’s crazy to imagine that somehow people in those times were still able to use them to navigate themselves through the world.  (Okay, sometimes they ended up in America instead of India but don’t we all make small mistakes from time to time?) And did you know that Read more…

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My Search for a True Soul-to-Soul Connection

It has always fascinated me how the languages we speak are so rich, nuanced and complicated, yet the better part of our communication happens on a non-verbal level. (Dare I say 70-90%? I always feel like statistics are complete bullshit. But hey, they fill space in newspapers and convince people.  So let’s roll with it 😉 )  Even more fascinating is that most people seem to have no clue at all about the things they Read more…

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How Being Homeless Taught Me to Build the Life of My Dreams

Winter 2009. I came back from the store, where I was sent to quickly pick something up.  Or to get some directions.  I don’t really remember that clearly as we had been drinking on an empty stomach.  It’s also not a very important detail anyway. What was important, is the fact that when I came back outside the car was gone.  I saw it drive away from out the corner of my eye. I stood Read more…

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My Last Words

Last week a friend turned me on to an interesting idea. What if you were about to give a speech for the entire population of this planet.  Then suddenly some guy pointed a gun at your head and told you “Give the speech and I’ll let you finish, but I’ll shoot you in the head right after. Don’t give the speech and I’ll let you live. ” Would you do it?  Would you take the chance?  Read more…

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The Secret Career You Have But Don’t Know About

Quick question:  What is your main career/job right now before anything else?  (Hint:  It's probably not what you think.)  While you might be one of the lucky ones who actually guesses the answer to the above question correctly, 99% of the people on this planet don't.  It's a very odd statement to make, but the truth is that 99% of people don't even realize what line of work they're in.  That means there's a pretty Read more…

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How Big Is the Chance You’ll Fail to Reach Your Dreams?

When you have big dreams, people will often warn you about how unrealistic they are. “What if you fail?”  They’ll say.  “You’ll have nothing to fall back on.” With best intentions, they try to be a good friend/father/funspoiler and make you understand that there’s a very big chance you’re simply not cut out to become the world-class athlete/actress/antrepreneur you think you are and that it’s better to invest your time in a “secure” job that’s Read more…

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What Would You Do With a Boss Like This?

What would you seriously do if you were stuck with a boss like this? Consider this scenario: The first thing they do when you see them is to consistently remind you of everything you haven't done that you're behind on. Then, after they've made you feel bad for not doing what you should have done, they instantly pile on so much pressure on you and make everything so complicated as a result that you're afraid Read more…

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First I Gotta… (Don’t Read This Unless You Want to Stop Self-Sabotage)

If you're anything like most people, you probably have some things in your  life right now that you’d love to do but simply can’t until you’ve fixed whatever problem’s standing between you doing it.  Right? I you’re not entirely sure what I mean, here’s a shitload of examples from real people I know who are currently in such a situation: • “I really want to eat healthy, but first I gotta move out because I Read more…

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The Forgotten Importance of Making People Feel Appreciated

The Lady at the Bus Stop About a week ago, my buddy and me were walking to the train station after a nice afternoon of playing with ladybugs, discussing business ideas and getting a sun stroke, when we suddenly passed a middle-aged woman crying at a bus stop. After almost walking past her at first, we stopped to ask her what was up.  She told us the bus driver had forgotten to pick her up.  Read more…

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Wave Your Freak Flag

Do you ever feel like you’re just a little different from most of the people around you? Are you and your “BFF” so great together because you’re both completely crazy in a way that no one else understands, but never fails to make the two of you smile? Are there parts of yourself even the people closest to you don’t get to see because you fear they might be just a little too weird? If Read more…

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How to Get Rid of Emotional Walls, Get Over Heartbreak and Find the Meaning of Life

Last weekend I was out having fun when suddenly something strange happened: One of my friends was massaging my neck and shoulders and told me something “seriously wrong” was stuck in there, and it gave her a really bad feeling. I felt perfectly fine though.  In fact I felt very relaxed.  So I told her not to worry, but she kept trying to fix it.  She didn’t know what it was, only that it was Read more…

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Can You Survive on Nothing but Power Naps? (Don’t Try This at Home)

Can you survive without ever really sleeping longer than 20 minutes? It’s pretty much considered universal knowledge you can’t. A little more than a year ago though, I decided to do something dangerous and put that idea to the test.  I read reports from Steve Pavlina -one of my favorite writers- about his experiences with sleeping on an "uberman" schedule and I got so attracted to the idea that I wanted to try it out. In Read more…

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The Manual of Life

When I was a little kid, my favorite toys were always LEGOs.  Hands down. I wouldn’t even listen to anyone claiming that better toys existed. I liked a lot of stuff (let’s face it:  90’s toys were the shit) but there was something special about LEGOs.  They taught me about freedom, creativity and life at a very young age.  (Damn, why does that sound so serious?) In case you’re not familiar with them, when you Read more…

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How to Party Like a Legend – Without Drinking

Everyone loves a party, but nobody likes a hangover, am I right? Still for most people, that punishment is no reason to abstain from drinking the night before, and I totally understand why.  Some nights are simply so legendary that you can say without a trace of doubt that they’re worth the 5 day “epic hangover of doom” that follows them 😉 When I wrote about everything I learned from not drinking for a year, Read more…

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Free-Flowing Relationships

8 out of 10 times when someone asks me if I have a girlfriend, my answer pisses them off.   I'm not really sure why.  I guess I've just been blessed to meet a lot of people who really care a lot about my love life 😉 That's why I was always unsure about writing this post, even though I feel like there's some real value in it.  Luckily, a couple of nights ago someone told Read more…

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How to Fix Your Problems the Fast Way

You know how you can sometimes stumble upon a very old online conversation you had with your best friend (or perhaps read a page in your teenage diary) and can’t help but laugh about the pettiness of your problems and how serious they seemed back then? As you got older, you gained perspective and realized that in the end you’re still alive and there’s worse things to worry about.  At the time though it literally Read more…

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Supply and Demand for Everything You Hate About the World

As I was clearing out my Facebook feed last week I noticed there is definitely no shortage of people who are unhappy with the way things are going in the world. Punks, snobs, right-wing, left-wing, educated, ignorant... People from all walks of life are starting to wake up and realize the way we are behaving as a species in general is simply insane, and in no way sustainable, honest or respectable.  In a lot of ways Read more…

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How to Reach Your Goals and Live In the Moment at the Same Time

If you had to identify your whole approach to life with one specific character, which one would you choose: The laid back hippie or the Spartan warrior? The Roman hedonist or the Zen monk? The overachieving go-getter or the guy who’s already content with his basic needs covered? The girl who plans every day to the minute or the unpredictable adventurer? (Yeah yeah Pepijn, we get it...  Go on!) Since most people aren’t completely black Read more…

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Fall In Love with Sucking

Ever looked at a guy who's great with women and wondered “Why can’t that be me?” Ever took a bite of your best friend’s homemade cookies and thought “I want to do that too, but mine always end up tasting like a waste of time” ? Ever told your friend who plays guitar: “I tried to do that a couple of times , but I give up every single time because it’s just too hard in the beginning" ? Read more…

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The Ultimate Guide to Creating Your Own “Youtopia”: An Inside-Out Approach to Lifestyle Design

One of the most important things anyone should do with their life is design it exactly in a way that will make them as happy as possible all the time.  This should be common sense, yet most people just don’t do it.  They live from weekend to weekend and from vacation to vacation, always looking out for that next escape instead of simply living a life they don’t need to escape from. Now call me Read more…

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Is This Dying Man More Alive Than You?

I'd like to introduce you to a buddy of mine.  We'll simply call him [Buddy] for the sake of his privacy. [Buddy] and I don't see each other very often anymore but it has come to my attention that in recent years he's drastically turned his life around: He's been traveling the world, he's wearing more colorful or attention grabbing clothes and he's become very vocal about opinions that people will definitely criticize him for.  I don't agree with Read more…

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3 Reasons Why You Are Not Making Your Dreams Come True

Sometimes you find yourself with a goal you really want to achieve, but you just don’t seem to be taking enough action to reach it. Maybe you have no time, the stars are not aligned perfectly or "your mom won't let you", or maybe you're just too tired, too hungry, too horny to do shit right now... Maybe you ARE taking action, but all of the actions you take are just procrastination in disguise: *Making Read more…

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Why “Just Be Yourself” Is Actually Amazing Advice But Almost Everyone Gets It Wrong

"Just be yourself and all will be fine!" has got to be one of the most cliché pieces of advice that ever gets thrown around. Like most people, you probably received it from a good friend someday. Most likely it had something to do with dating, or maybe in your case it was about a job interview, speaking in front of a crowd or your first porn audition (I'm not judging you, Wotan 😉 ). Again Read more…

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Are You “Free from” or “Free to”?

Last night a subtle difference between 2 small words somehow had a tremendous impact on me. For a while now one of my biggest goals had been to achieve a state of complete personal freedom one day.  And to help as many others as possible do the same in the process. I had a list of things most of us need to be "free from" if we want to be able to do anything we Read more…

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What You Can Learn from Your 3 Year Old Self

Can you still remember what you were like as a little kid? In my case I was always excited to discover, learn and experience new things.  I think to most grown-ups I must've been the most annoying little fucker ever to have over at their house.  As soon as I crawled through the door I'd go on an exploration-binge, open all their closets and check out everything that was in there to find out what Read more…

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11 Surprising Things I Learned from Not Drinking for a Year

That's right! You might not have expected this post since I play in a band called Wasted 24/7  and pretty much embodied that term for a big part of his life.  But aside from the occasional accident (damn you woman, feeding me gin tonic when I asked for water), I haven't touched a drink in 13 months. That sounded much more serious than it is though 😉 When I decided to quit drinking for a while Read more…

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Are Your Relationships Based on Reality or Fiction?

While you often don't realize it, the way you relate to the people in your life is constantly changing. • One week you're best friends, the next she stabs you in the back and you hate her (or you're dead, depending on how literally she stabbed you). • One day you're strangers and not the least bit interested in each other, the next you have a conversation that makes you bond so much you can't Read more…

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Don’t Confuse Taking a Risk with Taking a Chance

You know those moments when you really want to do something deep down, but something always keeps you from doing it the very last second? • Maybe you need to quit your job and get a better one • Maybe you need to tell someone you care about something that might hurt them or piss them off • Maybe you just want to "cuddle" someone's brains out really hard Whatever it is, most of the Read more…

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To Anyone Who Thinks We Shouldn’t Help the Refugees

Here's a little story from my own life, promise it's short: One day when I was homeless I struck up a conversation with this elderly man pushing a shopping cart with all his belongings. Upon learning I was living on the streets he immediately dug up 4-5 "power-pancakes". They were thick, filled with carbs and protein and one of them would be enough for me to last on for a half a day. "Here, take Read more…

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3 Ways You Didn’t Know Society Controls Your Sexuality

Today I woke up early, ready to get out and do stuff, but then I started thinking about sex and before I knew it 2 hours had passed and I was still in bed… Don’t worry, it’s not what you think. But it lured you in to read this, didn’t it? There have been a lot of instances lately where people asked me about subjects like feminism, slut shaming , gay rights, rape culture, etc. Read more…

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Stop Doing This If You Don’t Want to Lose Your Friends and Ruin Your Dating Life

(Note to long-term readers:  This post was originally titled "Some Advice About Playing with Balls")   I had an important realization this week that holds some value for most of us. Do you ever tell yourself "I made my move, now the ball is in their court!" ? I used to do it all the time. I'd tell myself things like: • "I asked her out, she had no time. Now it's up to her Read more…

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